Just because you don’t feel confident doesn’t mean you can’t show confidence. And once you start showing confidence, people will have no reason to think you’re anything but confident.
The key to showing confidence is adopting the body language. This means keeping your head up, spine straight, shoulders rolled down and back, and making eye contact. When you walk, do so with purpose and direction (no shuffling about aimlessly). Whenever possible avoid fidgeting or other small movements done to release tension and energy (picking your nails, toying with your phone, etc.). And always keep a warm, relaxed smile on your face.
Lillian Glass, a body-language expert and author of “The Body Language Advantage”, strong eye contact is the single greatest indicator of confidence.
Eye contact establishes a connection, shows sincerity, and helps to create a sense of trust between people.
Researchers at King’s College London also found that we associate with higher levels of eye contact with stronger leadership abilities, greater aggression and strength, and higher intelligence.
For many people, though, looking others in the eye — and holding that gaze — can be difficult.
Here is a tip:
Try looking at the other person’s eyes for two seconds, looking at their nose for two seconds, looking at their mouth for two seconds, and then looking at their face as a whole for two seconds. Continue this rotation throughout your conversation.
If you use this trick, Glass says, then the other person won’t be able to tell that you’re not looking directly at their eyes the entire time.
Make a habit of practicing eye contact in your day-to-day life — on the subway in the morning, strolling outside on your lunch break, and in conversations at the office and with friends. You’ll be surprised by how much more confidence you project as you get better at locking eyes.
Here is another tip; if you feel uncomfortable making eye contact, start to get comfortable by practicing with family and friends. Look them in the eye for about 50–60 percent of the conversation ideally.
When you break eye contact, look to the side rather than down. Looking down signals lower-status, shame, and/or submission. As you get more confident with eye contact with family and friends, practice it with people at work or out in public.
-with your Success and Confidence in mind,