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“No one will ever pay you what you’re worth. They’ll only ever pay you what they think you’re worth. And you control their thinking…Clearly defining and communicating your value are essential to being paid well for your excellence.” ~ Casey Brown

All negotiations can be stressful. However, navigating salary negotiations can be a particularly complex and emotional process. Being able to discuss money matters with confidence will help you get the compensation you want and may even improve your job satisfaction.

According to, studies have shown that an individual who fails to successfully negotiate a first salary may miss out on more than $500,000 by age 60.

In a recent survey of 2,000 people about attitudes toward salary negotiation, they learned:

  • 1 out of 5 people never negotiate their salaries.
  • 44% of people never bring up salary negotiations during the performance appraisal process.
  • Fear is the most cited reason for failing to negotiate one’s salary.

These are some steps to take before you get a job offer, after you get a job offer and in specific circumstances.

Steps to Take Before You Get a Job Offer


  1. Define Your Value.

    Take the time to sit down and self-evaluate. It’s critical to know your value when beginning negotiations. Ask yourself the following questions:

    • What are my clients’/companies’ needs and how do I meet them?
    • What is my unique skill set that makes me better qualified to serve in my company/serve my clients?
    • What do I do that no one else does?
    • What problems do I solve for the company/clients?
    • What value do I add?
  2. Postpone the discussion. It’s always best to let the employer go first in any salary discussion. Try to postpone discussing compensation until you receive a job offer. That way you have a better chance of staying in the running and negotiating with an employer who truly wants you on their team.


  3. Assess your individual situation. The exact approach you take will depend on the situation. You may be required to fill out an application stating your salary expectations. In that case, try naming a range rather than a specific figure.
  4. Stress your interest in the position. Let the people interviewing you know that you’re enthusiastic about their company and the position. Explain that monetary compensation is just one factor for you and that you’re also interested in career advancement, gratifying work and other considerations.
  5. Conduct background research. Gather all the information you can about average salaries for the openings you’re looking at. Visit your local library or check online on websites such as

Steps to Take After You Get a Job Offer


  1. Ask for clarification. Congratulations on receiving a job offer. Now is the time to discuss salary. It’s still advantageous if you can get the employer to take the first step and let you know the budget they’re working with.
  2. Be honest about your salary history. Any salary information you provide can be verified, so tell the whole truth. You may be able to strengthen your position by citing other relevant benefits including bonuses and commission.
  3. Evaluate the whole package. Remember that your salary is just one item in your entire compensation package. Pay attention to all the details including paid leave, health insurance and retirement accounts.
  4. Negotiate in good faith. Aim for a win-win solution. To start off on a good relationship with your employer, you both want to feel that you were treated fairly.
  5. Put it in writing. Ask for a written letter of agreement or cite everything you discuss in your thank you letter or email following up on the job offer. You want to be sure you’re on the same page.

Steps to Take in Special Circumstances


  1. Juggle multiple offers skillfully. It’s common to use one offer to leverage a higher offer for the position you most prefer. Give each prospective employer a firm date for making your decision and decline graciously if you choose to work elsewhere.
  2. Interview for lower paying positions. Go ahead and check out a position that sounds promising even if the stated pay is less than you need. You may be able to propose how you can be of extra value and wind up making you and your new boss very happy.


  3. Consider taking a pay cut. There are times when your income is likely to decline. If you’re faced with a difficult economy or looking to change careers, a pay cut may make sense.
  4. Work with a recruiter. One of the easiest ways to handle salary discussions is to work with a recruiter. They will usually manage much of the financial arrangements for you.

Show up for your next interview feeling ready and able to handle the question of compensation. There are many factors to consider when making a career move and money is one of the important issues we all need to be able to address.

Check out Casey Brown’s Tedx talk about salary negotiation:

-with your success in mind,







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Adrian Jefferson Chofor, the 'Confidence Coach' and Owner/Founder of Aspire2Inspire Transformational Practice LLC is the creator of the Aspire Life programs helping women learn to be confident and build self-esteem to reveal their true selves and live authentically. She helps women 'remove the mask' by learning self-acceptance, purpose, and loving their true selves to help them become the women they have always wanted to be!

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